Life journey is full of many contradictions and things that we cannot understand and explain. You work hard, you do your best at work but you don’t get the promotion. You do all your best to start a business but you don’t get the fund you are looking for to start the business. You do everything to your spouse but the marriage breake down. You always help other when they are in need but when your turn comes, nobody cares about your problem. Ten years or twenty years have passed but you did not get the breakthrough, your prayer did not get the answer you are looking for. Around you, you even see mediocre people who are blessed and posess things that you want to own for a long time. You work very hard, you take all the classes, but you don’t get the results you are looking for….These kind of situations happen for every person in their journey for a better life. The problem is that when we go through situations like these, we can become deeply disappointed, deeply frustrated, discouraged about life. We can completly loose our joy and even settle for less and deep bitterness for the rest of our life.
If somebody is going through a deep frustration, my objectif through this post is to bring back joy, faith and hope in the heart of the reader. Here are some practical solutions.
KEEP THE RIGHT ATTITUDE
Like I say in the beginning of this article, life is full of many contradictions that can steal our joy and our dream. While we are going through circumstances that are frustrating us our attitude toward this sad situation can make a difference. Our attitude is how we handle the situation ? Do we camplain ? Are we angry ? Are we tempted to give up ? Are we jealous ? Honestly, most people are bitter and they weep when things are not going their way in life. I understand them. It is good to weep, to cry when we are going through hardship. But for how long do we weep and cry ? After weeping, we have to get up again and start with more zeal the race for a better life.
In the journey of life we cannot win if we have a weak attitude. We have to have a warrior mentality. When things go hard, that is the best moment to sharpen your mind and fight the good fight for a better futur and a good fight for a better life.
Your attitude is very important because if you fail to have a better attitude your ennemy or the problem that you have can use it against you. No matter how diffilcult, how long the bad situation is, you have to keep a good attitude. When the wind blows in a sea, what determines if the boat will land safely or not is how the sail is set. If the sail is set well, no problems for the people in the boat but if the sail is bad, the people in the boat are in danger because the wind will break down the boat. Likewise, keeping a good attitude while you are in the storm of life can help you to land safely.
Your attitude must be stong, your attitude must be full of determination, your attitude must be full of zeal to continue the fight even though you get knock down too many times.
DON’T FOCUS ON THE ‘’WHY’’
We cannot explain and understand why although we have done our best we did not qualify for the loan of our dream house. We cannot undertand why our spouse leaves us although we are doing our best to have a better relationships. We cannot explain and understand why we are still single although we are doing our best to have a mate. Why is my financial situation did not change although I am doing my best to improve my finance ? Why is my health is poor although I am doing my best to have a good health ? Why is this ? why is that ? The moment you keep asking yourself these questions you will become down and sad. There are plenty of things in life that we cannot explain and the best attitude to have toward these things is to trust the Infinite Intelligence that what is going wrong in our life today, if we keep the good attitude, will absolutely work for our good not to destroy us.
Intead of focussing on the ‘’why’’ and trying to find an explanation or a reason, trust more and be aware that at the end if you did not give up, you will have the last laugh.
DON’T USE IT AS AN EXCUSE
In your road to victory and total blessings, your adversary will laugh and makes life bitter for you if you start loosing energy because the fight is taking long than you think. If you start looking for your plan B and start playing the game in a wishy-washy way, that is how your ennemy will keep you in his trap.
The truth is that when the battle for a better life or the tremendous efforts we have made to achieve a dream fall appart, the temptation to settle for mediocre life or to bend our standards to the standards of average people is high. We can esealy find excuses since we have tried and tried but failed.
Don’t do that . No matter how hard you fail, if you don’t get your way, keep saying to yourself : « I did not come here to give up my dream » When the battle is tough your inner resources must be tough as well. Making some excuses will weaken your energy and you won’t have the power to continue to persue your dream.
PASS SUCCESSFUL THE TEST OF FAITH
When things are not going in your ways despite all of your efforts and in the same time other people with less efforts or even no efforts at all are enjoying the things you want, I do understand that that it will be very painful, but you have to know that there is a reason for that. The journey for a better life or the achieving of any significant dream is full of tests after tests. Most of the times people who achieve more that the average people, pass unbelievable tests that can deeply beat or even kill the average people. That is why we call these great achievers, heroes.
You have to prove that you will be content and do your best even things are not going in your way. You have to prove that you will keep giving even though you are not receving, You have to prove that you will keep honoring people even though they treat you bad. You have to prove that you will keep your faith higher even though you are working and praying for many years and you don’t see anything in the external word.
Maybe it is probably the time for you to grow and develop a strong character. There are many things in life that we cannot learn through a class, a book… but only through a personal experience so that at the end you develop a spiritual masso. You cannot be strong if you are not put under pressure. You may not like it but if you stick with it, it will work for you. You are growing, you are becoming a mature person, you are becoming more applier, you are getting prepared for high responsibilities. You cannot get promoted without any preparation. If you get what you want or achieve your dream without any preparation, the things you get will be a burden and a heavy load for you, not a blessing. It will not help you, it will hurt you.
Your gift and talent can take you to a certain level of your life, but if you don’t have the required character for that gift, you will not stay there for a long time. Character is developped through tough time when we are not getting our way but we keep doing the best things.
Even if you are doing your best to earn more money and you did not see anything yet, even if it is a long time you are single and your efforts did not pay yet… Don’t get bitter, don’t give up. Your situation is not changing yet but you, you are changing, you are becoming a better person, you are growing, you are getting prepared for new level of your destiny.
It is easy to say that we have faith when things are going in our way. But what happen when we do our best and still have to wait for the things we want ? Do we loose our faith ? Can we continue to trust God ? Our character and the person we are becoming while pursuing a dream are more important than the dream or the things we want.
Remember there are too many contradictions in life and the journey for a better life is sometimes bitter. Everyone has his share of frustrations and things that we cannot undersdand. you have to make up your mind that you are not going to let these things steal your joy, your happiness, your dream, your hope. Do what you can and trust God for the rest. Leave with this attitude: ’’even if my situation does not change, I am still going to be happy,’’ ‘’ even if I see somebody with more talent and things I want, I will not be envious or jealous,’’ ‘’If my spouse does not change, I will continue to treat her or him well, and I will be happy.’’ ‘’I will always leave in peace with myself ’’. If you continue to do that you will be like the forces of nature, you will be unstoppable and you will probably get all the things you want sooner or later. Can you do that ?